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Review: Second Chance Summer by Jill Shalvis

If you like the outdoors, Colorado is a big adventure playground for adults: it’s great for skiing, cycling, climbing, and hiking. — Tyler Hamilton

Here’s one thing you must know. The mountains of Colorado are, in a word, breathtaking. We have massive vistas, death defying cliff faces, silence, and snow. Living in the Colorado Mountains means skiing, hiking, biking and running. It also means, if you are careless, sudden and violent death. Nature doesn’t care, and she has no patience for inattention. The slightest misstep can mean a thousand-foot fall to the rocks below, or dying of cold in the snows. Careless fires mean thousands of acres may burn in a single night.

Aiden Kincaid knows all these things. A Colorado Wildland Firefighter and volunteer for the Cedar Ridge Search-and-Rescue, as well as a city firefighter, Aiden and his partner, Mitch, work brutally hard to protect the mountains they love. They know these mountains as they know their own souls.

Lily Danville once knew these mountains just as well as Aiden. She climbed and skied, ran and hiked. But then, her beloved sister dies, trying to match her older sister’s daring climb of Dead Man’s Cliff. Ashley’s death was horrific enough – but her father’s heart attack and death at Ashley’s funeral completely destroys Lily’s life. Fleeing the mountains she loves so much, she moves to San Diego to start a new life, far away from painful memories and crushing guilt. It wasn’t her fault – she wasn’t even there when Ashley died – but it means nothing to the guilt. She left it all behind.

Including Aiden.

Now, Lily is back. Crushed and broken again, she comes home to heal, and to try to come to grips with her pain, grief and guilt. Of course, healing from such terrible losses isn’t easy. Not even close. But with her old friends around her, good memories as well as the bad, Lily just might be able to rebuild her life and learn to love the Colorado Mountains once more. And maybe even Aiden?

I received this book from the publisher in exchange for a realistic review. All thoughts are my own.

This title will be released on June 30, 2015


The Stop Gardner Campaign

 Yet another clueless Penis getting involved in women’s health – without a CLUE as to the amount of damage he is doing. If you are a “Pro-lifer” I advise you to wake up, get a clue and research the damage you are doing to humanity as a whole. Where is your “Moral Stand” when women are being beaten and raped, tortured and murdered? Where your moralistic outrage when unwanted children are beaten, tortured, and murdered? Where is your kindness, your outrage, when the victims of incest are forced to carry to term the twisted get of their terror? Gardner, and his ilk, are twisted, misogynistic monsters who should NEVER be allowed access to any ability to make things even worse for victims. This sort of hatred and viciousness, this power to destroy the lives of victims, should NOT be allowed to stand! If you have any compassion in your soul, I hope you can be counted on to help fight this honorific person and his evil hatred of the victims of crimes. Believe me – I was an unwanted child – and the torture and viciousness I went through was nothing compared to the brutalized bodies, the broken souls, that I dealt with as a police officer and then as a victim counselor. What these sorts of people are doing isn’t kind or good, ethical or moral by any means. It is the work of cruel, vicious people who use a twisted “moral” play to exercise their power and cruelty to punish victims and contribute the the number of tortured souls littering this country. It is an outrage, and a blight on the face of humanity. These are the sorts of people that are so common in the Middle East – people who find it perfectly acceptable to murder the women in their families because they were raped by vicious attackers through no fault of their own. The same type of twisted morality that will blame the woman victim, while applauding the “manliness” of the attacker.  Moral, emotional and physical sadism in what we purport to be the “Greatest Free Country In The World.” Really? I suppose if you sport a penis you might say so . . .



Gardner Opposed Abortion In All Instances. “Markey, the Democratic incumbent from Fort Collins, supports a woman’s right to make decisions on abortion; Gardner says abortion should be illegal in all instances. ‘I’ve been very up-front on it; I am pro-life,’ Gardner, a state representative from Yuma, said in an interview with the Coloradoan. When asked if he would allow exceptions for victims of rape or incest, or when the mother’s life is in danger, Gardner said, ‘I’m pro-life, and I believe abortion is wrong.’” [Fort Collins Coloradoan, 9/26/10]

Gardner Said He Was Willing To Sponsor Legislation To Ban Abortion: “Yes, And I Have The Legislative Background To Back It Up.” “Four Republican candidates seeking the Republican congressional nomination shared a stage for the first time at a Nov. 13, 2009, forum organized by Northern Colorado tea party and 9-12 groups. They were asked, ‘Do you believe that abortion is the killing of an unborn child, and if yes, are you willing to carry legislation to end the practice?’ All four candidates – Gardner, Diggs Brown, Dean Madere and Tom Lucero – answered yes, with Gardner giving the most succinct answer. ‘Yes, and I have the legislative background to back it up,’ he said to applause.” [Fort Collins Coloradoan, 10/3/10]


2007: Gardner Co-Sponsored Senate Bill 143 Which Would “Make Abortion A Felony Even In Cases Or Rape Or Incest.” “At the heart of the ad is Gardner’s sponsorship of a 2007 proposal to make abortion a felony even in cases of rape or incest. When he was a state lawmaker, Gardner signed onto Senate Bill 143 as a co-sponsor — he did not carry the bill himself, his campaign points out.” [KDVR, 4/22/14]

Gardner Cosponsored Bill To Make Abortion A Class 3 Felony. In 2007, Gardner sponsored SB 07-143 in the Colorado General Assembly which was an anti-abortion bill that would outlaw all abortions with the exception of cases that is “designed to protect the death of a pregnant mother, if the physician makes reasonable medical efforts under the circumstances to preserve both the life of the mother and the life of her unborn child in a manner consistent with conventional medical practice.” Per the legislative text, the bill would make it “a class 3 felony to perform an abortion.” [Colorado General Assembly, SB 07-143; Fort Collins Coloradoan, 10/3/10]

  • Senate Bill 143 Would Have Banned Abortion In Cases Of Rape And Incest, Doctors “Would Face A Class 3 Felony” And A Prison Term Of Up To 12 Years. “Senate Bill 143 proposed to ban all abortions in Colorado, except when the life of the pregnant woman is at risk. This would include banning abortions to women who have been victims of rape and/or incest. Any doctors who performed abortions outside of these lines would face a third degree felony that could carry a prison term up to 12 years.” [CU Independent, 2/14/07]
  • Life News: Senate Bill 143 “Would Have Banned Most Abortions, Except In Very Rare Cases To Save The Life Of The Mother.” According to Life News, an anti-choice news outlet, “Colorado legislators voted on Monday to kill a bill that would have offered legal protection to unborn children who are victims of abortion. The measure, modeled after the abortion ban the South Dakota state legislature approved last year, would have banned most abortions, except in very rare cases to save the life of the mother.” [Life News, 2/12/07]
  • Headline & Subheadline: “Senate Bill Seeks To Ban Abortion In Colorado. Senate Bill 143 Heads To Committee” [The Denver Channel, 2/11/07]
  • “Senate Bill 143 Seeks To Ban All Abortions In Colorado With The Exception Of Situations When The Life Of The Mother Is In Jeopardy.” “An abortion bill that has created fierce debate among lawmakers and citizens will be taken up by the Senate Judiciary Committee on Monday. Senate bill 143 seeks to ban all abortions in Colorado with the exception of situations when the life of the mother is in jeopardy.” [7News Denver, 2/11/07]

9News Truth Test: “True” That Gardner Sponsored A Bill To Make Abortion A Felony. “CLAIM: ‘Gardner sponsored a bill to make abortion a felony.’ VERDICT: True. In 2007, as a member of the state House of Representatives, Gardner was listed as a sponsor of SB-147. The bill would have made it ‘a class 3 felony to perform an abortion,’ so the felony charge would have applied to abortion providers, not women who underwent abortions.” [Truth Test, 9News, 4/23/14]

9News Truth Test: “True” Gardner Supported A Bill Making Abortion A Felony In Cases Of Rape And Incest. “CLAIM: The bill Gardner supported would make abortion a felony in ‘cases of rape and incest.’ VERDICT: True. SB-147 did contain an exception to save the life of the mother. Aside from that, the bill would have outlawed abortion with no other exceptions.” [Truth Test, 9News, 4/23/14]


Gardner Supported 2010 Personhood Amendment In Colorado. “Gardner announced at a 2010 congressional debate that he had collected signatures to put a personhood amendment on the ballot. Amendment 62 failed 71 percent to 29 percent, with 1.28 million voters opposed and nearly 475,000 in support of it.” [Denver Post, 3/24/14]

July 2013: Gardner Cosponsored The Life At Conception Act. [HR 1091, co-sponsored 7/23/13]

  • “Gardner Co-Sponsored A Bill In Congress As Recently As Last Year To Give Personhood Status To Fertilized Eggs.” [Associated Press, 3/25/14]

March 2012: Gardner Cosponsored Life At Conception Act. [HR 374, co-sponsored3/20/12]

Gardner Continued Supporting Personhood As A Cosponsor Of National Personhood, Even After Saying He Flipped On Personhood In Colorado. “The second-term Congressman, who represents Colorado’s rural and conservative Fourth District, famously reversed his longtime support for the anti-abortion personhood movement in March, a month after announcing he was running for Senate. Gardner was criticized as a flip-flopper. But he hadn’t performed even a full flip. He shuffle-stepped before he left the ground and tried to have it both ways. He said he didn’t support personhood… in Colorado. He made it known to his pro-life supporters that he was still an anti-abortion lawmaker. And he continues to support as a cosponsor a national personhood bill, the so-called Life at Conception Act.” [Colorado Independent, 7/2/14]

Personhood Measures “Would Effectively Outlaw Abortions” And “Many Forms Of Contraception.” “The personhood measures would effectively outlaw abortions and, critics say, many forms of contraception. They have been overwhelmingly rejected at the polls in Colorado — the last one failed 70-30 — and have been used by Democrats to paint Republicans as extremists on social issues.” [Associated Press, 3/25/14]

Huffington Post: The Personhood Amendment Banned All Abortions, Even For Rape. According to the Huffington Post, “The personhood amendment, which would ban all abortion, even for rape, forces a discussion about when life begins and why–which can lead to religion–as we saw in the video of Rep. Cory Gardner saying he circulated personhood petitions in his church.” [Huffington Post, 3/10/14; Cory Gardner Shows Love For Personhood, Accessed 3/14/14]

2010 Colorado Personhood Amendment Would Ban Abortion In All Cases, Including Rape And Incest, In Addition To Potentially Criminalizing Doctors Who Terminated Ectopic Pregnancies And Banning Multiple Forms Of The Birth Control Pill. From a US News And World Report blog post by Democratic strategist Laura Chapin: “Like Buck, Gardner has been an enthusiastic supporter of the ballot measures that would give full legal rights to fertilized eggs in the Colorado Constitution, also known as ‘Personhood.’ This proposal would ban abortion in all cases, even for victims of rape and incest, potentially criminalize doctors who terminate life-threatening ectopic pregnancies, and ban many forms of birth control, including the IUD and some types of the Pill. There’s another Personhood measure on the ballot this year, even though the last one lost 70-30 in 2010.” [US News And World Report, Laura Chapin blog, 2/27/14]

Legislation That Defines A Fertilized Egg As A Human Being Would Ban All Abortions, Including Those Resulting From Rape And Incest, And Would Bar Common Forms Of Birth Control, Like The Moring After Pill. “A constitutional amendment facing voters in Mississippi on Nov. 8, and similar initiatives brewing in half a dozen other states including Florida and Ohio, would declare a fertilized human egg to be a legal person, effectively branding abortion and some forms of birth control as murder. […]The amendment in Mississippi would ban virtually all abortions, including those resulting from rape or incest. […] A similar measure has been defeated twice, by large margins, in Colorado.” [New York Times, 10/25/11]


2011: Gardner Was An Original Co-Sponsor Of A Bill To Prohibit Federal Funding For Abortion, Except In Cases Of “Forcible Rape,” Incest, Or Life Of The Mother. In January 2011, Gardner was an original co-sponsor of H.R. 3. According to the New York Times, “One bill, the ‘No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act,’ would eliminate tax breaks for private employers who provide health coverage if their plans offer abortion services, and would forbid women who use a flexible spending plan to use pre-tax dollars for abortions. Those restrictions would go well beyond current law prohibiting the use of federal money for abortion services. The bill, sponsored by Representative Christopher H. Smith, Republican of New Jersey, has drawn fire over language that undercuts a longstanding exemption on the ban on using federal money for abortions in the case of rape or incest; the measure narrows the definition of rape to ‘forcible rape,’ a term that his office has never defined. Democratic lawmakers and others repeatedly hammered on the term, saying it suggested that victims of statutory rape and other crimes could not get abortions paid for with federal money. While Mr. Smith’s staff said last week that the term ‘forcible rape’ would be removed from the bill, the staff of Representative Jerrold Nadler of New York, the top Democrat on the Judiciary Subcommittee on the Constitution, said that language remained intact as of Tuesday.” [H.R. 3, co-sponsored 1/20/11; New York Times, 2/8/11]

  • Gardner Joined Todd Akin As The Bill’s Original Co-Sponsor. According to an opinion piece by Democratic operative Laura Chapin, published in the Denver Post, “Republican vice presidential candidate Paul Ryan — along with Akin, Gardner, Lamborn and Coffman — co-sponsored the original version of HR 3. They apparently had no objection to the ‘forcible rape’ language.” [Laura Chapin, Denver Post, 8/21/12]
  • The “No Taxpayer Funding For Abortion Act” Attempted To Narrow The Definition Of Rape To “Forcible Rape.” “Ryan also cosponsored the ‘No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act’ with Akin in 2011. The GOP tried to narrow the definition of rape as it related to abortions with the measure. Only in instances of ‘forcible rape,’ the bill specified, would a woman be eligible to have her abortion covered under insurance. The sentiment behind the notorious attempt to redefine rape was echoed in Akin’s comment on Sunday.” [Huffington Post, 8/19/12]
  • The Term “Forcible Rape” Was Used In The Original Bill And Eventually Dropped From The Measure. According to the Washington Post, “Responding to Democratic charges that he sought to narrow the definition of rape when he co-sponsored a House measure last year that used the term ‘forcible rape,’ presumptive GOP vice-presidential nominee Paul Ryan said Monday that the phrase was ‘stock language’ and that he agreed with its eventual removal from the bill. […] The GOP-led House has passed several abortion funding-related measures this Congress, but the one that employed the term ‘forcible rape’ – H.R. 3, also known as the ‘No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act’ – has drawn renewed scrutiny in the wake of Missouri GOP Senate nominee Todd Akin’s remark that ‘legitimate rape’ rarely results in pregnancy. Both Akin and Ryan were co-sponsors of H.R. 3. A spokesman for Rep. Chris Smith (R-N.J.), the bill’s main sponsor, told The Post last February that the term ‘forcible rape’ was eventually dropped from the measure because it had been ‘misconstrued’ by critics.” [Washington Post, 8/27/12]


Changing Rape To “Forcible Rape” Could “Distinguish It From Other Kinds Of Sexual Assault That Are Typically Recognized As Rape, Including Statutory Rape And Attacks That Occur Because Of Drugs Or Verbal Threats.” “A Republican bill seeking to permanently cut off federal funding for abortions has angered women’s groups that say it alters the definition of rape, permitting coverage for the procedure only in cases in which the rape is considered ‘forcible.’ The bill, called the No Taxpayer Funding for Abortions Act, would make permanent several provisions that have been law for years but require annual renewal by Congress. It is a top priority of Republican leaders who took control of the House after the November elections. The most well-known provision that would become permanent under the bill is the Hyde Amendment, which prevents some federally funded health-care programs from covering abortions. For years, it has allowed exemptions in cases of rape and incest, and when the life of the woman is threatened. Under the proposed language, however, rape becomes ‘forcible rape.’ Critics say the modifier could distinguish it from other kinds of sexual assault that are typically recognized as rape, including statutory rape and attacks that occur because of drugs or verbal threats.” [Washington Post, 2/1/11]

  • National Women’s Law Center Government Relations Director: “It Speaks To A Distinction Between Rape Where There Must Be Some Element Of Force In Order To Rise To The Standard, And Rape Where There Is Not.” From an article on H.R. 3: “A Republican bill seeking to permanently cut off federal funding for abortions has angered women’s groups that say it alters the definition of rape, permitting coverage for the procedure only in cases in which the rape is considered ‘forcible.’ […] ‘It speaks to a distinction between rape where there must be some element of force in order to rise to the standard, and rape where there is not,’ said Steph Sterling, director of government relations for the National Women’s Law Center. ‘The concern here is that it takes us back to a time where just saying no was not enough.’” [Washington Post, 2/1/11]

H.R. 3 Would Alter The Definition Of Rape To “Forcible Rape” Which “Would Rule Out Federal Assistance For Abortions In Many Rape Cases, Including Instances Of Statutory Rape, Many Of Which Are Non-Forcible.” “For years, federal laws restricting the use of government funds to pay for abortions have included exemptions for pregnancies resulting from rape or incest. (Another exemption covers pregnancies that could endanger the life of the woman.) But the ‘No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act,’ a bill with 173 mostly Republican co-sponsors that House Speaker John Boehner (R-Ohio) has dubbed a top priority in the new Congress, contains a provision that would rewrite the rules to limit drastically the definition of rape and incest in these cases. With this legislation, which was introduced last week by Rep. Chris Smith (R-N.J.), Republicans propose that the rape exemption be limited to ‘forcible rape.’ This would rule out federal assistance for abortions in many rape cases, including instances of statutory rape, many of which are non-forcible.” [Mother Jones, 1/28/11]

H.R. 3 Would Alter The Definition Of Rape To “Forcible Rape” Which Would Not Include “Rapes In Which The Woman Was Drugged Or Given Excessive Amounts Of Alcohol, Rapes Of Women With Limited Mental Capacity, And Many Date Rapes.” “With this legislation, which was introduced last week by Rep. Chris Smith (R-N.J.), Republicans propose that the rape exemption be limited to ‘forcible rape.’ […] Other types of rapes that would no longer be covered by the exemption include rapes in which the woman was drugged or given excessive amounts of alcohol, rapes of women with limited mental capacity, and many date rapes. ‘There are a lot of aspects of rape that are not included,’ Levenson says.” [Mother Jones, 1/28/11]

Critics Of H.R. 3 Said “Forcible Rape” Legislation “Would Exclude Victims Of Statutory Rape Or Rapes Involving Drugs.” “The legislation — known as the No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act — was first introduced on July 29, 2010 by New Jersey Congressman Chris Smith (R-4th Dist.). […] After the GOP took control of the House, Smith re-introduced the bill on Jan. 20, 2011. Again, at the time of introduction, Ryan and Akin became co-sponsors, and the legislation still contained the phrase ‘forcible rape.’ […] Yet that term ignited an outcry among various critics, who said the phrase would exclude victims of statutory rape or rapes involving drugs.” [Politifact, 8/22/12]

Imagine This, or How Big O Tires Roadside Assistance Is No Assistance!

Oy. What next??

Black Hawk, Colorado is gambling central around here, and my housemate, Linda, works for one of the casinos up there as a Security Manager. From the weather channel, you probably know that the weather here really stinks. Snow, ice, wind. Fun.

So, Linda gets to work tonight and she has a flat. Oy. Well, she just bought brand new all-weather tires from Big O Tires, and they have Roadside Assistance so that should be no problem, right? Well, no not so much . . .

Picture this: You are standing on the side of the road, up to your knees in snow, it is blowing and icy and freezing and dark and you are freaking miserable . . . You call for Roadside Assistance, and this is what you get: You must have your Big O Tires invoice for the purchase of eligible tires available at the time of the call.  So you are standing there, with your invoice in your safe at home, where it belongs, all safe, and without it? You are piss out of luck. No Roadside Assistance for you, SUCKAH!!!!!!

 WHAT? They don’t keep records so that you can get Roadside Assistance without having all of your paperwork on you? When you are stuck on the side of the road? You have GOT to be kidding me! You have to give them invoice numbers, dates, and without it, you are stuck there on the side of the road, in the dark, alone, waiting for a psycho to come along, grab and savage and murder you. What a great deal Big O Roadside Assistance is!

So, I called up the really nice guy that owns Black Hawk Towing and I will spend the $70.00 to have him do it for her in the morning. At least she made it to her parking garage, where she was safe and warm, instead of being trapped on the side of the road like she could have been. She is warm and dry and doing her job until 7AM when the tow truck will arrive to change the tire and send her back home safe and sound.

What I can NOT understand is how Big O can think that this is OK? If she really was stuck on the side of the road, how can they not have access in their systems to the information they need in order to provide the assistance that they supposedly offer their customers?

Do you keep invoices in your glove box? Or do you keep them at home, in your files? Is it unreasonable to expect Roadside Assistance to provide their assistance without having a tire purchase invoice in your hand at the time you call, or should they have that information available in their systems?


Let Amber Farrell be your Christmas Present to yourself and to ALL of your friends, family, neighbors – heck, even your dog! Amber Farrell is how I am spending my Christmas Eve!

Happy Christmas Eve, Amber!!!

I am sitting down right now to start reading Wild Card – Book Four of the Amber Farrell series by Mark Henwick. Anyone who knows me knows I am passionate about Mark’s series and can’t say enough good about it.

Also, I have a confession, I have had the book a couple days, and by rights should have posted this notice before now…. Lay it down to being immediately dropped into rereading the first three in the series and totally losing all good sense when I owed Mark the courtesy of posting this on MONDAY…. I am SUCH a JERK! But I am doing it now, and as it is Christmas Eve, here you go, Mark – and I hope you can forgive me.

To everyone else out there in my reading public – – – it’s Christmas Eve, so buy this book for ALL your friends and family, and send it to their electronic stocking —- Oh, and don’t forget to get the first books for yourself and everyone else also:

sleight of hand
Book One! my review is HERE
hidden trump
Book Two! My Review is HERE
raw deal
A Novella, the Prequel to Bite Back – read it next! My review is HERE

And Happy Ho Ho Ho!!!!!

A Gift for a Special Quilter!

Click to shop – these people are AWESOME!
hoffman fabric
The Challenge Fabric for this year.

I am finally back to quilting, prepping for The Hoffman Challenge. While I was out there looking for The Hoffman Challenge Main Fabric, I went to my two favorite site. is based right down the road in Boulder, Colorado and has some of the most beautiful fabrics you could ever want. From the madly popular to the unusual, Equilter is always my first stop.

Antique copper Tjaps from Dharma Trading Company.
Click to go to the Dharma Trading Site!

Next, I go to Batiks Plus. If you are in the market for batik fabrics, this is THE stop you MUST make! This is the strongest possible go-to place for any batiks you could ever want. I do most of my own dying for my batik style fabrics. But sometimes there is absolutely nothing else that will work except for true hand painted hand painted batiks hand stamped with Indonesian Copper Tjaps. The Tjaps are nearly impossible to come by – Dharma Trading has them occasionally but it is a bloody battle to get your hands on them. When Dharma sends the notice that the Tjaps are going to be available, they give a date and TIME, and I have no doubt that people sit on their computer tapping “order” a good five minutes before they become available!

Now, besides the Batiks, Batiks Plus also offers the amazing works of McKenna Ryan. If you are an applique lover, McKenna’s work is the creme’ de la creme’ of the applique world. Especially if you love nature as the basis of your works.

In January, Batiks Plus will be shipping Snow Buds, McKenna’s newest series! If you wish to buy something really nice for your favorite applique lover, you can’t miss with a beautiful McKenna Ryan series!



Snow Buds by McKenna Ryan
Click to order for your loved one who LOVES to applique!


Review: Thunder Snow (Thunder on the Mountain Series)

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I must admit that I picked this book up based solely on the location. I once lived in Nederland Colorado (well, actually, I lived in a valley up on Magnolia, s brutal little switchback road with cliffs on one side, and dizzying drops on the other, which anyone familiar with the area will know. Driving it in winter in an F150 was “interesting” to say the least!). Ned is a beautiful little town, surrounded by breathtaking scenery. And who can find a town with a Frozen Dead Guy and a Carousel of Happiness all in the same place? Not to mention the Pioneer Inn, which would make any rock fan faint with envy. Besides being the first place I know if to turn fast food grease into automobile fuel?

Foster’s descriptions are spot on, from Ned itself to Left Hand Canyon, Boulder and beyond.  Her local characters are also wonderfully drawn. Sam and Morning Sun are both jewels who reminds me very much of people I once knew in Ned, and the few interactions we get with other characters made me feel at home. Overall, that portion of the book was worth the read.

Now for the bad part. The totally unrealistic romance and how it took a strong female lead and turned her into a caricature of the needy, whiny romantic novel female with the

Tickets to ride this 1910 fully restored and updated
carousel are only $1.00 and all proceeds go to children’s

emotional maturity of a 14-year-old. Callie comes to the novel strong and extremely likable. She has been through a lot, having been stalked and terrorized by a sadistic, narcissistic

sociopath and stood up for herself. However, immediately upon entering Ned and meeting Sam, a dear old friend of her father’s, she also meets Jack, a narcissistic, self-centered jerk who goes out of his way to be cruel to her. And, of course, she immediately falls head over heels. Huh? Didn’t she just get past all that? He is by turns needy then thoughtful, poetic and then a total  unmitigated self-centred (insert expletive here). The first time a situation requires he step up to the plate and be honest, he runs off for a week, “goes to ground,” Instead of doing what she is there to do, work on improving herself and learning to be happy with how wonderful her life truly is, she spends the time moping around, crying “buckets of tears” and writing long, “I’m 14-years old and my first crush just dumped me for my best friend” `poetry’. Of course, she takes him back without question, though he gives her no insight into why he treats her well and then saunters off and leaves her hanging without a word. Literally walks out on her.

The second time he does the same thing, when stakes are immensely higher, she does the same thing. The whole “buckets of tears” and bad poetry, “why, why why what did I do to make you betray me” crap (hey, HE is the one that straight out the door and disappeared once again to pout, or whatever he does when he goes off and doesn’t answer his phone. Fah!)

Of course, in the end she takes him back, AGAIN, and he promises everlasting love and explains what happened in his life that makes him such a jerk. Meh. And he will never go off and sulk for weeks at a time again. Riiiight….

Overall, the location sells the book. I was actually nauseated that one of the reviewers said one drawback of the book is that Jack should have been more “aloof”. HUH? If he were any more aloof, he would just never come back to town, but to each their own. Some seemed to think that the relationship was `romantic’ so there are those out there that won’t find it to be simply overwrought and immature.

Recommended to learn about one of the prettiest spots on earth, not recommend for the rest.

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

I read this post this morning and loved it! I don’t often share the work of others on the blog but this post was definitely ”share-worthy”. Creating a bucket list lifestyle encompasses treating yourself right and learning from your mistakes. This post is a great reflection of those lessons. – Lesley Carter

Is there one of these that you do often? Are there several? Let’s let the good things catch up. 

Written by marcandangel

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Photo by: Rob Brucker

Colorado Flood Relief

If you can help at all, the people of Colorado would appreciate it. Donations made through any of these links go to Colorado Flood Relief, and you will know you donation will go to an honest charity.

The phone number for donations is 1-877-677-6727.

Tens of thousands of Coloradans never had need for flood insurance before – and now, their lives are devastated, their homes are lost, and they have lost loved ones. Help for the victims would be appreciated.

You can get further information from 7News or 9News.

News7 Flood Relief Information


News9 Flood Relief Information
Donations to the American Red Cross are also welcome.

This is only one photo of the devastation caused by last night’s flooding. Clicking the photo will take you to the Colorado News 9 Website for further photos. We were fortunate. Linda tried to get to work last night, but was turned back because of avalanches in the Highway 6 and Highway 119 corridor. Some of the rocks that come off that mountain pass and down onto the road can be as big as cars – literally. We know it happened, but apparently no one can get through yet, so no photos.

Here is a video, courtesy of YouTube and Charles Fink, of Highway 119. You can see how dangerous the road can be with the threat of avalanche, rock slide, narrow or no shoulders and drunk and just-plain-dangerous drivers.  Click on the photo below to watch the video. This is one of the most beautiful drives – but highly dangerous. There is nothing quite like coming around a corner and seeing a car sitting on the side of the road with a huge rock literally squashing it flat like a Looney Tunes cartoon . . .

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This is a Denver Post file photograph, but this is very similar to what Linda saw when she tried to get to work last night!

Highway 6 closed

For those of you who are interested, this is the story of my town, beautiful Golden, Colorado in winter.

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Clear Creek Canyon where I take my walks with my dogs.  Photo courtesy of
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